When you take on something really brave, I mean something that really, really stretches you, its incredible to experience the support that comes out of the woodworks. I’m talking about the people who cheer loudly for you to succeed! The ones who step in when you are feeling less confident about your decision to be brave. These are your cheerleaders, the ones reminding you why you decided to “step into the arena” in the first place. Thank goodness for those people in our lives.
Then there is the critic… Unfortunately, what I have found to be true is that anytime you step into something really BRAVE, there will always be the critic.
The critic sounds a little something like this…
“There is no way she can be putting all that time into her body and still be a good mom. The entire thing is pretty selfish if you ask me.”
“I can’t believe she posted those immodest pictures of herself in a bikini on Instagram. What kind of an example is she trying to set?”
“I’m not sure why she thinks she should be doing a competition like that. She does not have a good enough body.”
Those are examples of the critic’s voice. Hurtful? Sure, but when you really gain an understanding of why the critic feels the need to speak such unkind, cruel, judgmental words, it allows you to step back and see it for what it really is.
Brene Brown says this about the critic, “If we are the kind of people who ‘don’t do vulnerability,’ there’s nothing that makes us feel more threatened and more incited to attack and shame people than to see someone daring greatly. Someone else’s daring provides an uncomfortable mirror that reflects back our own fears about showing up, creating and letting ourselves be seen. That’s why we come out swinging. When we see cruelty, vulnerability is likely to be the driver.”
The truth is that the comments made by the critic have nothing to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with them. The critic will cast judgment on others where they feel most vulnerable to shame.
Every morning and every evening I declare OUT LOUD these statements that hang on my bathroom mirror:
This may seem a little silly to some, but I will not step into this world everyday and wait to have the world tell me who I am or what my value is! I can do that for myself POWERFULLY every single day. This is something I even get to teach my sweet girls!
When I was younger, I remember being told by a boy that I had “FP”, which stood for Fat Potential. Later in life after bearing children, an individual told me that women who have had babies could never again be attractive. A past mentor/boss of mine once pointed his finger in my face and told me I would never be as good as he was.
I could continue on and on with the negative messages I have encountered, but the point I’m trying to make here is that there will ALWAYS be someone lurking in the shadows, or on the front row throwing stones. Many times, we are our own worst critics.
So what should we do about it? I say KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! If there are critics in your life, then you know you must be on to something really special!
“Without question, putting ourselves out there invites a far greater risk of being criticized or feeling hurt. But when we shut ourselves off from vulnerability, we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.” – Brene Brown
The critics actually fuel my fire. In fact, it makes me want it more and pushes me to work even harder. This week, I was able to get my pull ups! After having baby number two, I had a lot of issues with my shoulders. I even dislocated the right shoulder twice! When I would hang from a bar to attempt a pull-up, it literally felt like my shoulder was going to slip right out of the socket. This week I faced the pull-up fear and busted out about 25 pull-ups! (I did them in sets of five).
As promised, here are a couple workouts from the week! Warning: The Incline Trainer HIIT workout is going to have you begging your gym owner to purchase FreeMotion Incline Trainers. I don’t blame you… the benefits far out weight a normal treadmill!
Incline Trainer HIIT Workout:
Here’s to another POWERFUL week of PROGRESS! When I stand on that stage I may not look “perfect,” but I can tell you I will be SO PROUD of the dedication and the effort I have put in to be there with all those athletes standing on the stage that day.
Here are my progress photos I sent my coaches this week:
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